It is natural to feel overwhelmed with the fact of returning to the daily routine after the death of a loved one. Many people may feel unable to resume their relationship with family, friends and co-workers. Death is an extremely sad event, hard to face, that affects the mourners and causes sadness and a feeling of helplessness. Recovering the illusion for life and everything it represents is fundamental. But: how to achieve it in the midst of so much pain?
Certainly, illusion refers to life, to movement, to dynamism. And who faces a loss feels exhausted, without strength to talk or go out and connect with reality. But recovering the illusion of life is possible.
Acceptance is the first step to achieve it. A fundamental stage of mourning is to accept what happened, accept that the deceased won’t return but also that he no longer suffers any pain. Accepting is vital to reconnect with the present and recover the desire to talk and share with family and friends, get involved in what they are doing, resume work and projects.
The sadness that causes death can be devastating. However, it dissipates little by little when you remember the happy moments lived with the deceased or make him a recognition ritual in the family group through a farewell at home. These are ways of saying thank you to the dead loved one for what he gave us while he was alive. Once this recognition is made, the pain is reduced and a new vision of the relationship with the deceased emerges. There is a reconnection with reality and the mourners can look to the future, resume their plans, relationships and projects.
Obviously, it is important to move forward but taking one step at a time; without haste or anguish. The duel must follow its natural course, without pretending that nothing has changed or that it will pass more quickly if people do not talk about what happened. It is normal to feel sadness and pain, but also to feel hopeful and desire to continue living with joy.
Recover the illusion after a loss
