The daily routine of going to work or school resumes its course after the death of a loved one in about three or four days. This does not mean that we are not in mourning since it is a process that lasts about six months. But the mourners must take back their lives despite the pain they are feeling.
Normally, those who suffer a loss talk about the event with the family and friends, which is a way to ease the pain. Talking about the event helps significantly, as it allows you to remember the moments lived with the deceased, their jokes and their laughter, their qualities and achievements. For most mourners life goes on, with a good deal of effort. But for others, life does not follow; for them the days just pass by, which is very different.
When days just pass by, it means that the bereaved is not really living. He is anchored to the past; it’s like his life has stopped, like a movie paused, at the moment of the death of his loved one or at the moment of the funeral because it is the only thing he remembers.
Certainly, the death of a loved one is a sad event that deeply affects family members. But staying in the past is negative for physical and mental health.
Beyond the serious cases that merit the attention of specialists, it is possible to resume daily life after the death of a loved one. To do this, it is very helpful to talk with family and friends, not to stay isolated at home. Talking allows to lessen pain, anger, grief and also to share feelings with those who are going through the same stage of mourning.
Talking also allows us to remember the happiest moments lived with the person that has died and give them the value they have in our lives. We can remember the teachings and legacy of the deceased, which will certainly help us to move forward in life.
Staying open to the contact with others restores the connection with reality and allows the mourners to resume the course of their lives, despite sadness and pain.