When a death occurs, the mourners usually cry and in this way, they get free from grief. If a family member or a friend does not cry, it is usually thought that he is very strong and faces the situation with a lot of courage. However, this is a myth, a social belief according to which if the duel lasts little it is considered a sign of strength and if it takes a long time it is a sign of weakness.
All people facing the death of a loved one suffer and crying is a form of liberation. Not doing so could delay or hinder the grieving process and, by extension, the healing. The need to express pain is common to all living beings. Failure to do so may indicate that the person has somehow lost contact with reality, is in a state of denial or is grieving in a delayed manner. In this last case there is a difficulty in recognizing the scenario or the factors that give rise to the duel. It can be delayed and appear days, months or years later, totally out of context and without a logical link.
In the case of people who, besides not crying as a way of venting, do not talk about what happened, the pain will seek an escape route. The consequence can be a physical ailment such as chest pain or headache. The mourners can also suffer depression and anxiety.
Delaying mourning for the death of a loved one can work in the short term. But the healthiest thing to do is to express the feelings that derive from that circumstance.
In the social sphere it is fundamental to recognize in the other the right to express what he feels but freely, without establishing judgments, comparisons or making him feel ridiculous.
Taking into account that each person lives the grief individually, it is advisable to let the mourners who face death cry, express their anger and all the feelings that an event of such nature provokes. Pain and grief are inevitable; pretending to escape from them or hiding the reactions that death may cause is negative.
Liberation through expressing pain
