During the grieving process for a death, it is difficult to face the feelings of loneliness, fear, frustration and helplessness. Many people begin to question the event. They wonder why this had to happen and they can begin to blame themselves or to reproach the deceased why he left them alone.
Facing a loss causes pain. However, a first step to get out of that state is to accept what happened. This is a first step towards the light and thus recovery through mourning opens.
Forgiveness has a fundamental role in recovery. Many people will ask what they have to forgive. First of all, forgive themselves for any nasty phrase or inappropriate gesture they had at the news of the death of a loved one. Undoubtedly, it was reaction to the pain caused by the event. So, forgiving themselves for that is a crucial step.
Secondly, forgive those who have not been able to help in taking care for the person before death or who decide not to, because this is not the time to judge their arguments.
Third, forgive the deceased for any act that the mourners consider offensive or inappropriate. Keeping those memories in mind prevents the evolution of grief and forgiveness is a way to dissipate them and let them go.
When a person dies, those affected enter a spiral of feelings where pain and sadness prevail. That combination can disturb their reality, obscured and tinged with a desire for revenge.
Forgiveness is crucial in these cases. If the family member who is causing this situation is still alive, the ideal is to talk in a loving way to clarify everything and get rid of the emotional burden that it is generating. And if the person has already died, it is possible to perform a ritual of forgiveness before her photo to let go everything that caused disturbance. Once this has been done the sufferer will begin to feel free of guilt, anger or any desire for revenge.