It is natural to refuse the death of a loved one. It is the first reaction of humans and the first stage of the grieving process. Specialists point out that it is a phase of much pain, anguish, anxiety and even rage. However, they also indicate that, normally, the mourners overcome this first phase successfully.goodbye, to let go. All humans cling to people and it is very difficult to accept death. However, it is an inevitable fact and therefore requires adaptation to the new reality.
Rejecting death is not something we do consciously. It is just a defense mechanism against the pain that death can enchain. It is difficult to assimilate that a loved one will leave us soon due to an incurable disease or that he has unfortunately died.
Thus, the first reaction is to deny what happens, because we can not believe that this is really happening. In fact, it is common to hear people say: “This cannot be happening to me.”
There is a tendency to think that grief is something that happens to others. Without realizing it, we cling to parents, children and pets. Moreover, we hardly think about our own death until something reminds us that life has a term.
Thinking about death does not mean to be obsessed with the subject. The thing is more about knowing that at some point it can happen and that it is something natural. Internalizing this idea is helpful in the acceptance process of a fatal event.
Fortunately, the denial is a stage of the mourning process that usually takes a few months. It takes some people only days to accept the death of a loved one so that they can continue with the grieving process and return to normal daily life.