Life prepares us for the final goodbye, which means death, through multiple farewells, since childhood. As we grow, we close cycles that imply a farewell, such as the end of studies, moving from the mother’s house, the marital separation or divorce and, of course, the death of a loved one.
In each of these circumstances appear natural feelings that we usually know how to handle, such as fear, anxiety or expectation before a new reality. However, when talking about death, it is inevitable that such feelings become more acute, because we know it is a definitive, inevitable and non-return separation.
Death is an event that nobody can avoid and being aware of it really scares. The first recommendation from specialist is to accept the event as something natural. Once the mourners internalize that the loved one is gone, that he won’t return and that he remains in peace, the pain begins to dissipate.
On the other hand, it is important to remember that life continues and that in a short period of time it will be necessary to return to normal activities and assume again everyday responsibilities.
To achieve this, mourners need to maintain communication with others and boost moments together. This will allow them to provide emotional support to each other, in addition to remembering the deceased and honoring his memory.
Returning to reality means not to see that special and beloved person again. Thus, we must prepare ourselves to face it with patience, but, above all, with love. The absence of that person does not mean that we have lost everything that we lived together, or the teachings that she transmitted to us. This person has gone away but it does not mean that our link with her has been broken forever. On the contrary, that bond remains while we stay alive and keep each moment shared in our mind.